Wednesday, November 2, 2016

The Role of A Man and A Woman in Marriage

People that are not married wish they were. And people that are married wish they weren't. Okay, okay, maybe not. Of course there are happily single people and there are happily married people, but happiness in marriage takes time. Men are so annoying and immature, and us women can be so emotional and petty.  So I decided to write down a few things that will help the singles in the future, and the married folks.

The top four reasons marriages don't work out are due to:
  • Finances
  • Poor Communication
  • Infidelity
  • Internal Insecurities and other issues
So these are pretty self explanatory, but if you want me to go into details on each one, just leave a comment below and I will. Now that you know what causes divorce, you need to know what you can do to avoid it. You can't change a person, but you can change yourself.

The Role of a Woman- In a Man's Mind

In a man's mind, (yes I've been there) we are slaves. End of story. I know, it's a lot to take in, but it's the truth.There's nothing more to it really. You're not a good woman if you don't do everything.  You have to cook, clean, take care of the children, be a pornstar in the bedroom, have sex with them everyday, be a good listener, be supportive, do the laundry, bring in a little extra income, and everything else there is to do around the house. If you are not doing all that, you ain't nothing.

The Role of a Woman- In a Woman's Mind

Is to take care of her children and her husband. If that means buying Subway everyday, she'll do that. If that means taking your clothes to the dry cleaners, she'll do that too. But she's not going to allow herself to be overworked and underpaid. And that's the end of that.

The Role of a Man- In a Man's Mind

In a man's mind, his role is to provide and protect his family. That's it. He's happy to do extra, but doesn't like to be told to do anything. He might like to be handy or he might pay someone else to be.  He might even cook, clean, help with the children...etc, because he knows it will make you feel happy, or he expects a lil treat in return.

The Role of a Man - In a Woman's Mind

He needs to provide completely. That's right, he needs to be paying all the bills! He needs to make sure his wife and children are well taken care off. And...he needs to help out with everything else, especially when his wife is exhausted. That's all.

In order to have a successful marriage you have to understand your roles. Have a sit down, and talk about what your partner expects from you and what you expect from your partner. If you don't that's where the problems begin. That's when the wife starts being lazy, because you're not helping her with nothing. Or that's when the man wants out, because he's doing your work while you're relaxing. Or that's when the woman is looking elsewhere for affection because you suck,  or that's why he's telling Joann what a bad wife you are, because he's hungry and the house is always messy. I'm just saying!

If you know what's expected from you, just do it. That's the key to a successful marriage. If you know you're not doing much, don't expect your partner to do too much. If you know you are doing too much, tell your partner to step his/her game up. Marriage requires work. But once each person understands their role and carries their weight, happiness is right around the corner.