Wednesday, March 4, 2015

"Don't Put Your Business on Facebook"

I was speaking to my Dad the other day and he said, "Facebook is the Devil." His concerns were about the number of dishonest people that are on Facebook for the wrong reasons. He made some valid points. Like the world, Facebook is filled with untrustworthy people. And this is exactly why privacy settings were created. You have the option to 'accept' or 'decline' Facebook friend requests, you can block particular people from viewing your photos, commenting on your page info, status,...etc. With that said, if someone shares information on Facebook, I'm almost certain the individual knows exactly who will see it, and know there's a possibility they might be sharing this information with the world ('public'). So when someone post their 'personal business' on Facebook, they either:
  • Had enough,
  • Want you to know,
  • Don't care whether or not the world knows,
  • Or is using Facebook as a medium to vent.
Now, if you happen to be scrolling down your newsfeed, and realize someone has shared what is not your typical Facebook status (e.g. positive, lovey-dovey stuff, inspirational. Etc), instead they shared how frustrated they, how depressed they are, something bad that has happened to them.....here's what you should and should not do.

You Should Not:
  • Publicly or privately reach out to the person, specifically to demand that they delete their post
  • Ignore the person's issues/concerns, and focus on generalizing how Facebook is filled with only nosey, dishonest, un-genuine people, that do not care.
  • Imply that the person is being unintelligent, unreligious, ..etc because of their actions

However, you should:
  • Offer encouragement and support if necessary,
  • Offer help if needed and able,
  • Ignore the status, if you don't agree with it, or do not have anything positive to add to it,
  • Delete the person as your friend, because clearly you do not care to know what's really on their minds,
  • Hide the person's info from showing up on your Facebook newsfeed, if you don't want to delete the person as a friend.
Facebook is a place where family and friends can keep in touch, where people can share their life's milestones, where people can connect with like-minded people, where new friends can be made, where people can inspire others, and  much more. Yes there are those that will use Facebook for the wrong reasons, and that's with everything. Facebook asks, "What's on your mind", and if someone decides to truly share what's really on their mind, they're entitled to do so. Let their conscience be their guide.

I believe it takes a lot of guts, bravery, and courage to inform the public about something that most people would keep to themselves out of shame, embarrassment, or whatever else. But that's just my opinion. Sometimes the truth of one person can inspire someone else. Sometimes when a person shares the truth, they can get the encouragement they need from others. I'm curious to know, what are your thoughts on this subject?

If one of your Facebook friends post that they were mistreated, how would you respond? Would you respond at all? Let's have a heart to heart in the comments below.

Next week we will continue "Live Like You're Rich When You're Not" Part 3. If you haven't read part 1 and part 2,← click the links to do so.

12 comments:

  1. People need to realize that there is no such thing as a true 'delete' button on the Internet. Not only that but every friend also have a friend that has a friend. Love the unfollow option on FB.

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    1. So if a Facebook friend of yours post that they were mistreated, how would you respond? Would you unfollow them, because they don't realize there's not a delete button on the internet? Please clarify. I'm aware that posting information on the internet is like posting information to the world, however are you implying that some people do not have the intelligence to know that? Thanks for stopping by. I would love to read your response. :)

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  2. I was raised with a mother whose motto is "just because you can't see them doesn't mean that they're not out to get you." It took me a long time to get over my suspicions and start a page on FB because of my upbringing and I have been very selective about who my friends are. Because of that, if a friend reached out in real pain or trouble on FB I would call them. Some people are private and some are more open. If sharing a problem on FB allows someone to get help or encouragement, I'm all for it.

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    1. Hello Dancing ITG,
      I totally agree. I don't believe people should go around airing their dirty laundry on Facebook everyday, but if a person is at the point where they feel the need to share their hurts and pain,...I'd see that as an opportunity to reach out to them and offer support, rather than question their decision . Thanks for stopping by. :)

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  3. Hmmmm....very interesting subject. Well it seems like you're specifically talking about someone posting that they're stressed, hurt , or in pain....so in that case, if a friend of mines does that on facebook, I would be concerned and reach out to them. I wouldn't focus on them not thinking clearly putting their business on facebook, because I'm almost certain, when people post things on Facebook they could care less whether you or your friends see it.

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    1. Hi Jess,
      Yes you're right, I'm specifically talking about if someone is down, hurt, stressed, and post that on facebook. I believe some things should be kept to yourself. Thanks for stopping by. :)

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  4. If there's something that's bothering you and you would like to share it with others to seek their opinions, advise, offer encouragement, Facebook is a great place for that. However if you have things that you don't want people to know about you now and in the future, don't share it on Facebook. Good post, well written.
    Dad

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    1. Totally agree. Thanks for stopping by Daddy!:)

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  5. Facebook is the devil. .lol

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    1. LOL!! Sometimes that's what it seems like for real...with all the crap people share, post..etc. Thanks for stopping by.

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  6. Caribbean QueenMarch 30, 2015

    I'd show concern for a real friend, but I think 'Facebook friends' aren't necessarily your real friends.

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    1. That's true, not all 'facebook friends' are real friends. But just because someone isn't your real friend doesn't mean you can't show compassion. Wouldn't you agree? Thanks for stopping by. :)

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