Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Fake People Don't Exist

Here I was scrolling through social media every week, and every week I guarantee you someone's status has something to do with 'fake friends' or 'fake people'. It made me wonder, who were they talking to, the people that they accepted their friend request, or the ones that they intentionally made their information public to. Either way I felt like this needed to be addressed. I might even be called fake for saying so, but hey, that's just the way the world works.

Don't get me wrong, I use to be a firm believer in the existence of 'fake people', until one day the light bulb went on. Fake people don't exist, unless the person appears to be human, but has some sort of alien or none-human DNA, then yea, they're fake. But on a serious note, it's not just the literal aspect that I don't agree with, it's the concept on a whole. I did some digging and underlined some of the top characteristics that a 'fake person' has. I will then tell you the truth, and the why it doesn't make them fake at all. It's lengthy, but bare with me to truly understand.

Compliments too much or doesn't compliment at all.
Let's say you don't feel fabulous at all, and a stranger or someone you don't care much for, gives you a compliment. Oh boy, they're being fake, right?

Here's another example. You're wearing a new outfit. You look at yourself in the mirror, and you say "Girl, you look fabulous." You exit your house and no one, I mean no one, that you know gives you a compliment. So are they your real peeps, haters, or what? Because you would think if they were your 'real friends', they could at least give a sister a compliment, right?
The Truth: Just because someone gives you too many compliments, it doesn't make them fake at all. Maybe they really do like whatever it is they complimented, or they just want to make you feel good. If they're lying to you, then that's between them and God. Someone says something nice to you, say thank you. Stop worrying about whether it's genuine or not.
Also, just because your 'real people' don't give you a compliment, it does not mean they are fake. Everyone has their own things going on. The last thing that might be on someone's mind is the outfit you're wearing. Like really, the world does not revolve around you. Selfish much?
Yes, that was a little harsh, but it's the truth.

Pretends their life is peachy
This person is always smiling, happy, and appears to have their life together. They post pictures of how happy they are, how in love they are, and their life is peachy. And that makes you upset. Why? Because your life is in the pits, so they have to be fake, right?

The Truth: First of, what is it to you? Like why do you care so much? It's their life. Whether or not they are pretending, that does not make them fake. It makes them human pretenders. No one wants people to see them hurting, depressed, poor, down and out, struggling...etc. Like really? No one wants to glorify how suck their life is. Who does that, do you?

Talk behind people's backs
This person appears to be cool with you, they might even be your 'loyal friend'. But behind your back they talk about what an idiot you are. They even tell multiple people about what an idiot you are, except you. Then you hear it through a grapevine, and you're pissed. He/she is fake right?

The Truth: Don't pretend for one second that you have never in your entire life spoken badly about someone behind their backs. I know I have. Is it good? Nope. But are you fake for doing it? Nope. It's called being a human being. Of course you should be honest and tell someone in front their faces that they are being a complete idiot. But we don't always do that, now do we. Tell you why? Because we either care about that person's feelings, or we're afraid of their reaction. 

Yes there are some backstabbing, disloyal, dishonest, gossiping people. That's what they are, they're not fake at all. They're just real disloyal, dishonest, gossiping people. Yep, those kinds of people do exist.

Has the ability to make you feel like crap
This person tells you the truth or a lie to intentionally make you feel like crap.

The Truth: They are not fake, they are simply being jerks. Everyone has the ability to make you feel like crap, if they try hard enough. My husband is a jerk sometimes and I return the favor. Lol! Does that make us fake? Nope. It makes us human.

Appears to be someone they're not.
This person appears to be a sweetheart, but is truly evil underneath. Or vice versa

The Truth: Pretending to be sweet, when you're sour does not make you fake at all. No one wants to appear to be a bad person. People want to be likable. If someone is pretending to be sweet, when you know (like God does) that they are actually sour, then just maybe, they are trying to be better. Because a true sour person won't even attempt to be sweet. And who knows, they might be going through something. People are the way they are for a reason, it does not mean they are fake.

Isn't there when you need them.
This person you are always there for, and the moment you need them, they are gone with the wind.

The Truth: Of course there are some cases where some people always need you for something, and when you need them, they are non-existent. Those people aren't fake at all, they are called users. Users take, take, take, and the moment you open your hands to receive from them, they disappear.

There's also cases where you're not really there for them at all. And just maybe they can read you like a book. Or just maybe you are too needy. Or just maybe you do things to get things in return.
So they're fake, because they won't give in to all your needs, right? How often have you given into their needs? And if you did, why are you taking notes? You get my point right.

Does not  reach out to you.
You're always the one reaching out to this person, and they never try to reach out to you. This person is only there for you when it's convenient to them. This person even ignores your calls/texts.

The Truth: So why are you still trying to reach out to them? Clearly they are not interested in maintaining a relationship with you, right? Maybe. Or they might just be busy, overwhelmed, or just don't feel like talking or responding to you. They could careless about how you feel about it. Just because someone doesn't take one minute out of their entire day to send you a text or call you, it doesn't mean they don't care about you. They're just doing their own thing, and you need to do the same.

If you truly want to reach out to this person, do so. But don't do so with the hopes that they will automatically start reaching out to you. Expect the best, prepare for the worst. That's just how life works.

Are invited to your events, but you are never invited to theirs.
This person you try to include them in your life. You invite them to your functions, but they never invite you to theirs.

The Truth: If they did have a function that you knew about, then I can see why you're into your feelings. But it doesn't make them fake. Maybe they felt you probably wouldn't want to come(assumptions are bad). Or maybe they just did not want you there. Or maybe they just did not want to bother you. Who knows. If you really want to know why you weren't invited, ask the person.

Also, not everyone is as social as you are. Yes they might come to your events, if you invite them. But that does not mean they have events. If they're like me, they probably don't have events. Maybe they have a husband that's not into those kinda stuff(speaking about myself here). So don't get your panty/brief tied up in a bunch about it. Just ask the person.

Tries to please everyone.
This person is a social butterfly. They get along with everyone and can relate to anything. I mean they did it all, and know it all. He/she is a people pleaser and a very good one.

The Truth: You and I both know that you can't please everyone. So as much as this person appears to be pleasing everyone. They're not. But why are you so bothered about them being an entertainer? Yes, that's not your cup of tea. But to each it's own.  Maybe this person genuinely gets along with anyone, and have a lot of experience with things. So! That's them. What is it to you? They're not being fake, they're being them. Whether or not they are pretending, that's not your concern. That's theirs. Let their conscience bother them, not yours.

Tells a lot of lies.
This person is always lying. Like every word out of their mouth is literally unbelievable.

The Truth: This person is not fake. This person is a pathological liar. Enough said.

Before you attempt to throw stones and call people 'fake' evaluate yourself. Because chances are you have done, or are doing all the things you consider 'fake people' to be doing. It does not make you fake at all. It makes you a person. And people will be people.

We will sin, we will do/say bad things, and that's not being fake at all, that's being a spiritual being in a fleshly body. The struggle to do the right thing is real. So when people don't always do the right thing or do the things that we expect them to do,  it doesn't make them fake. It makes them human, and it makes you selfish and/or unrealistic. Because who are you to call someone 'fake', when you do the same exact things that they do. I'm just saying.

I know that I am coming across a little harsh, but this is me speaking from my heart. I'm speaking to myself too. This is tough love, but it's the truth.

If someone has wronged you, that's life. Forgive them and move on. Because chances are this will happen several more times in your lifetime.

If you have wronged someone, acknowledge it, apologize, repent, and try your outmost best to not repeat. Let your conscience be your guide.

This New Year recognize people for who they are and don't label them as 'fake'. That's just life, and people will be people. We still shower them with love, and try to  be a better person. Be safe and have a blessed New Year!

Let's have a heart to heart in the comments below. What are your thoughts?

Peace and Love.

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

The Things I Love Most About Christmas

Growing up in Dominica, I never had much of a Christmas. I vaguely remember when I was under the age of 5,  I got a doll one year, and I remember having a tree once. But then again, there is a possibility that this was all made up in my head. As I did have a huge imagination. Haha! I also remember during Christmas time the town area had a lot of cheap China toys. Somehow that sticks out in my memory.

After we moved to St. Thomas and as I got older in my pre-teens/teenage years, my older brother started to put up a Christmas tree. And if there's a tree, there will be gifts. So as a child I looked forward to Christmas, and getting gifts. I also remembered singing (Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas),  and acting in plays at church during Christmas time. I never appreciated Santa, neither was I given the opportunity to believe in him, because he never gave me anything. I guess I was too naughty. All this shaped me to be the Christmas fanatic I am today. If I had to choose between Thanksgiving and Christmas, I would choose Christmas every time. Here are the things I love most about Christmas.

The Reason

I absolutely love the reason behind Christmas. It is a celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ. God sent his only son to be the ultimate sacrifice for mankind. Born in Bethlehem, to a virgin Mary, he came to die so that we can live. If you don't believe that Jesus is the son of God, you should. Jesus said, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me(John 14:6)." Jesus is the reason for the season. I enjoy the Christmas plays, the Christmas concerts, and  the Christmas services illustrating the true meaning of Christmas.

The Surrounding

I've lived on an island all my life, so I've never seen snow, but during Christmas time it gets chilly. After being in the constant heat all year round, a little chill is much appreciated. I like the decorations almost everywhere. I like driving around in the night to see the Christmas lights. I like how busy the stores are, and the Christmas music they play all day long. I like how people seem so happy and pleasant. The overall Christmas surroundings is lovely.

The Christmas Tree

Listen, I love putting up the tree, but I hate taking it down. So guess what? My tree stayed up last year. It's something about the Christmas tree that's just so beautiful. Ha-ha! The ornaments, the lights, the garland, the ribbons, the bows, the mat... everything about the Christmas tree is pretty.

The Gifts

I don't buy gifts all year round for my family and friends, so during Christmas time I like to spread a little extra love if my pocket allows it. Also all the gifts that I did not receive throughout the year, I get them on Christmas. Giving and receiving gifts is always a blessing.

The Christmas Treats

Yes, I'm eating healthy, but a little guava berry tart during the holidays, never hurt nobody. Not to mention all the holiday treats in the stores, like the classic Danish Butter Cookies...yummmm! I might not be able to eat it all, but I'll try a tiny piece of everything, if I could.

The Family Gatherings

Very similar to Thanksgiving, the family gets time off from work during the Christmas holidays. There's food, there's fun, and there's fellowship. I love that! I'm a family gal, so anything with the family, I'm all in.

I hope you enjoyed getting to know me a little more. Now it's your turn.

What do you love most about Christmas?

Peace and Love.

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

10 Favorite Things| Gift Ideas for Her

I'm going to tell you my favorite things that will make some excellent gift ideas for her, or for yourself. I own these items, consistently use them like I do water, and replace them when they're finished. Because they are truly amazing! There are many places you can buy all the items that I'm about to mention, but you can click on the images for an example location. No sponsors or affiliated links.

Here are my 10 favorite things that will make awesome gifts for her:
1. Dior: Hypnotic Poison - The name says it all. The scent of this is hypnotizing. It's worth every penny.
2. Marc Jacobs: Honey- This fragrance is light and fresh. I love it! Put a lil on before bed, on a night out, or for everyday wear, it's awesome!
3. Bath & Body Works: Japanese Cherry Blossom Shimmer gel & Body Lotion- The smell of this is delicious. One side is shimmer, one side is lotion. You can choose which side you want more of. It's amazing!
4. Aveeno Products: I absolutely love Aveeno products, from there foaming face cleanser to their daily moisturizing lotions. It makes your skin look and feel amazing. Plus, you can use it on the kiddies to make their skin feel extra soft. Get an Aveeno Gift Set, she won't be disappointed.
5. Mary Kay Gift Certificate- Mary Kay Crème to Powder Foundation- I am not a Mary Kay representative, let's get that out of the way. But if you want the ultimate natural looking makeup, you need Mary Kay Crème to Powder Foundation. I wouldn't recommend you selecting a color for someone, so a gift card is the best option. Find a Mary Kay representative and have them tell you which color would work best on your skin.
6. Gold/Silver hoop earrings- Every woman needs a pair of gold/silver hoop earrings in her life. They are the simplest accessories to wear with any outfit, anytime, and anywhere.
7. Gladiator sandals- Out of all the shoes I own(over 10 now), I use my gladiator sandals the most. Why? Because they look and feel amazing on. Find out her shoe size and get her a pair preferably in a color that goes with anything (brown/black). Please refrain from those cheaply made ones, get a nice sturdy pair that will last.

8. Underwear- All those color options and styles, what's not to like? Get her a Lingerie gift card. If you know her size, get her a few sets (matching bra & panties).

9. Clothes- We where it everyday, so if we don't like, we better learn to like it. Get her a gift certificate to a nice clothing store, or find out her size, and purchase an entire outfit.

10. Makeup- Like some women, I like to experiment with makeup. From lip glosses to baked eye-shadows, if she wears makeup, she won't mind a few palettes, new color glosses, or a gift card to select her own. Of course, it doesn't have to be MAC. But a gift card to a popular makeup shop won't be a bad idea(MAC, Sephora, Estée Lauder. Etc.).

If you're buying a gift for her, not sure what to add to your Christmas list, or will be doing Christmas presents for yourself, consider my ten favorite things. They can turn out to be your favorites also.

What are your current favorite things? Let me know in the comments below. I hope this helped.

Peace and Love. 

Friday, December 5, 2014

20 Holiday Gift Ideas for Him

It's the most wonderful time of the year! Yes, for me it's Christmas time! I absolutely  love the holidays, celebrating the birth of Jesus, the music, the lights, the weather, the decorations, the food, the atmosphere....everything! The hardest part about it all is buying gifts.

Every year I ask my husband, what he wants for Christmas, and every year he says the same thing....nothing. Like really? So while everyone is opening presents, you expect absolutely nothing. I don't think so!

With that said, if you have a husband, boyfriend, brother, male friend that never wants anything, doesn't know what he wants, or you simply want to give him something from your heart for the holidays, then keep reading. You know him best, so ignore the things that won't suit him. Here are  20 holiday gift ideas for him.
  1. Cologne
  2. Watch
  3. Clothes (E.g. a casual outfit, dress shirts for work, jeans. Etc)
  4. Edible arrangements
  5. His favorite snacks
  6. Something that he likes that you don't do often
  7. A gift card from his favorite store or electronics store
  8. A replacement for something he abuses (e.g house slippers)
  9. Shoes
  10. Underwear
  11. Console Games (if he has one)
  12. Shaving Set (It will have  a trimmer, shaving cream, after shave, ..etc)
  13. Portable Battery Charger
  14. A good book
  15. A case for his electronic device
  16. Natural bath soaps
  17. Wallet (Make sure it looks better than the one he has)
  18. Personalized keychain (You can use a picture of you and him or/and create a personalized message)
I hope you found this list to be helpful. Have a happy holiday! Remember, be smart with money. Always shop around for the best prices.

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Peace & Love.

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

5 Tips to Keep Your Vagina Healthy, Fresh & Clean

Just like some other parts of our bodies, our vaginas need some extra TLC. You may be thinking, "I take baths 2-3 times a day, and that's all I need." Well, if you're the only one that's going to smell your vagina, and you don't necessarily care much about the health of your vagina, then yes that may be all you need. But for the ladies that want to be absolutely certain that their vaginas are healthy, clean, and smelling its freshest, then you have come to the right place. The last thing you want is to be insecure about the scent of your vagina. A smelly vagina can lead to public embarrassment and sexual discomfort. You don't want that! Here are five tips to keep your vagina healthy, fresh, and clean.

Get a Vagina Haircut

Just like the hairs on the rest of your body, the hairs on your vagina serves a purpose. It is to protect 'her'. I would not recommend shaving, as this can cause cuts, bruises, and increase your chances of being infected, but trim her down as low as possible. Keeping your vagina trimmed is a great way to prevent odors, that having a long bushy, 'vagifro' can cause. There are lots of personal groomers on the market, invest in one.

Use Wipes

If you are drinking liquids and eating regularly, you should be using the bathroom at least four times a day to pee/poop, or both. Although everyone's body is different, the fact remains that you use the restroom everyday. Toilet paper alone, just won't cut it. And if you don't believe me, use toilet paper as usual, and at the end of the day, use a wipe, and wipe from front to back. Look at it, you can even smell it. Case dismissed! With every restroom visit, you are wiping with toilet paper right? Well just like you don't clean a baby's private parts with toilet paper, don't clean yours with it either. Don't get me wrong, you don't have to completely omit toilet paper. You can use it to do a preliminary wiping before using the wipes or you can use it pat dry after using the wipes(air drying is best). I would not recommend using scented wipes, because it can cause infections/negative reactions for some women. But I would recommend using unscented, all natural, sensitive wipes. There are lots of different brands out there, find one that works best for you. And if your don't care to purchase wipes, simply damp some toilet paper, and use as necessary.

Use a Feminine Wash

Don't wash your vagina with any old soap. Use one that is specifically designed for 'her'. Most soaps contain lots of fragrance and chemicals that can cause irritations, and overall are not the best for your vagina.  Use a natural, fragrance free feminine wash. My current favorite is The Honey Pot Lavender feminine wash. It is amazing!

Use Clean Hands vs. Washcloths

Say goodbye to washcloths, and hello to using your hands. If you don't already know, washcloths contain germs and even mold. It is recommended that you wash them after every use, but who does that? Washing them can decrease the amount of germs in them, but it won't eliminate it. Instead of washing your vagina with a germs-filled washcloth, use your clean hands. Apply a generous amount of feminine wash, and clean area as directed(from front to back). Never use the hand you washed your anus with to wash your vagina.  Think about it, don't you use the same washcloth to wash your butt, and then the next day use the same exact washcloth to wash your vagina. I know, it's gross and a tab bit TMI to discuss. But you get the point that I'm trying to make.

Wear 100% Cotton Panties

You've probably heard this a million and one times, but yet you don't always do it. I'm not saying you can't occasionally wear different types of panties, but for your everyday, all day wear, it is highly recommended that you wear cotton panties. The same way cotton pillowcases absorb moisture from your hair, a cotton underwear absorbs excess moisture from your vagina. It helps to prevent yeast infections, vaginal irritations, and allows your vagina to breathe easy. Nowadays there are so many cute, sexy cotton panties. When you think of cotton panties, don't think of them as 'granny panties' or 'bingo bags', think of them as a healthier, comfortable panty option.

Additional Tip: If you wish to make her smell extra delicious, use a light/musky perfume, or perfumed body nectar, and apply it 5-6 inches above your knees, on your inner thighs. Perfect for when you're wearing nightgowns, short skirts, dresses, pants...Etc. Never use perfumes directly on your vagina or underwear.

I hope you found this information helpful. If you have persistent smelly vaginal odors, please consult your health care professional before trying new products, or to get medical advice.

Hygiene is very important, especially for women. We sometimes aim to look our best, but being healthy, clean, and smelling our absolute best is most important.

Which of the five tips do you agree/disagree with?

Let's have a heart to heart in the comments below.

Peace and Love.

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