Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Love is like a Rose: Part 2

                                

If you haven't read Love is like a Rose: Part 1,← click the link.
 
After we got married, the first month or two were the roughest. We were adjusting to each other, and many things that we did would annoy one another. Thank God, after the first two months, we kinda got the hang of each other. I then realized how delicate and hurtful love can be. I saw how it's easy to check out of love when you're angry. I understood how anger can make you do/say things you will later regret. To make a marriage last, you have to give it time and work on it. I composed a list of some things that happened in my marriage, and some tips on how I handled them. I hope this helps you.
 
1. Rebuke the Devil. One of the cons of being married is that your husband knows exactly what buttons to push to get you upset. And if you're like me you're probably wondering, if you love someone why would you intentionally hurt them? The same reason you do it, of course. To get a reaction and because you're in this fleshly body... that's why. When this happens your first emotion is to get angry, and be on the defense. Don't even bother. It will only get worst. Rebuke the Devil, and give your husband some space. When he comes to his senses, which he will if he is a God-fearing man, you can level-headedly resolve the conflict.
 
2. Don't sweat the small stuff. I realized that in the beginning we argued about the silliest things. Like... we would spend an entire evening bitter to each other because someone didn't close the faucet properly. Like really? There are so many things to be grateful for, instead of wasting time arguing over silly stuff. Just accept it and move on. "Oh mehn, I really forgot the faucet on. I'll pay attention to that more the next time, my love." Just keep it moving.
 
3. Kiss him when you're angry. Yes in number one I said give him some space, but if you want to resolve the problem even faster, give him a kiss. Heck, make love while you're at it. Clear the anger in the air, then fix the problem. It's hard to remain angry, while kissing someone you love.
 
4. Cut your husband some slack. Men are so simple and we can be so hard on them, even when they're trying their best. If they are making a valid attempt on working things out, don't nag them, that only pushes them away. Keep praying for them, and let God work it out.
 
5. Agree to Disagree. Marriage has taught me to be selfless. I sometimes want things my way, and want to be right. But sometimes we just have to agree to disagree. Just say, "Hey I understand where you're coming from, but I'm just not on the same page at the moment." And if we're wrong, acknowledge it and carry on.

6. Communication. Communication is very important. You should be able to talk to your husband about anything. If he said or did something that you don't like, talk about it. Get it off your chest.
 
7. Together time is key. Life can get you busy. And with all this technology we can get so caught up. But never be to busy to spend time with each other. Sitting down together as a family to have dinner, going on picnics, watching a movie at home or at the cinema, dinner dates, taking a trip every year,..etc. Whatever you do, God first, family second. "A family that prays together stays together."
 
These seven things have helped me so much in the past few years of my marriage. And today I love my husband even more than I did before. We have disagreements now and then, who doesn't. But what really matters is having patience with each other, having the ability to resolve conflicts, and never forgetting how much we love each other. 
 
What are your thoughts on marriage/relationships? How do you make it work? I would love to know, so comment below.
 
Peace and Love,
 
HeartMamaVI
 
 
 
 

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